Firstly,massive kudos for coming on here and admitting you have a problem. That’s the hardest part as a gamblers brain keeps telling its owner that there is always a way back-you are just that one big hit away from being sorted…until eventually,there’s nothing left. I got myself into £69,000 worth of debt in the early 2000’s on loans and cards. My wife at the time didnt have a clue. It cost me my marriage,my home and basically everything I had worked for….Im still paying the debt back at £300 a month,12 years later.
I ended up going to a local GA meeting-firstly in Chester,then in Wrexham and the help I got there was invaluable. I made good friends and stayed gambling free for over 3 years. I will admit I have gambled a bit since but for some reason(I attribute it to GA) I now know how my brain works and know when to stop.
You are obviously terrified at the trust betrayal with your partner,and thats natural. I would suggest popping in to your nearest GA meeting and introducing yourself and you will get the best advice ever from people who have walked in your shoes and know the ins and outs of everything you are going through. I cant recommend them highly enough.
Best of luck with whatever you choose