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[The Bandit WANTED $5,419 El Bandito]

Tough one mate, it sounds like he has decided that he knows he doesn’t have a long time left and doesn’t want to spend that time not doing as he pleases, yes the drinking may well shorten his life further but choosing between 12 months of miserableness or 6 months of being happy then we would all probably do the same. Some might say he is being a little selfish but then again, some may say that he has come to terms with and accepted the inevitable and is enjoying his time that he has left.

It would be different if the diagnosis was “if you stop drinking you will live a happy life for years and years” but it doesn’t seem that is the case?

[Haz40 WANTED $1,167 Outlaw]

Touching story jb. Honest answer I don’t know. Personally I think no matter what you say he’s going to carry on drinking regardless. I suppose the question you have to ask yourself is can you stop him drinking if you chose to. If the answer is no then you have to spend the time he has left enjoying life with him and as you say not arguing.

[Mr Mr B WANTED $395 Blocked]

So sorry JB, I could only read the first part and had to stop 🙁 Lost my mom to 5 types of cancer with a 4 week notice from the docs. On point, she was gone and it was the hardest time of my life. Just make sure people are around who care and love, that provides a better basis for better final memories. One of mine is kidnapping mom from the ward and taking her to visit friends. I’ll explain who that’s not as bad as it sounds later. Oh and she punched me. Bloody woman. I miss her.

[Anonymous WANTED $483 Inactive]

Thanks so much for the replys. And sorry to hear about your mom Mr B. Awesome that you kidnapped her though lol. What a wonderful memory.

Yeah think I’m just gonna let my dad be who he wants to be, and hope he manages to drink in a way that isn’t gonna over power his body.

No way do I wanna spend the time I have left with him arguing. So…

“C’est La Vie”

Better to just love him for who he is…an amazing Pappy.

Thx again guys X

[Du Dune2000 WANTED $205 Blocked]

Just Basics wrote:

Thanks so much for the replys. And sorry to hear about your mom Mr B. Awesome that you kidnapped her though lol. What a wonderful memory.

Yeah think I’m just gonna let my dad be who he wants to be, and hope he manages to drink in a way that isn’t gonna over power his body.

No way do I wanna spend the time I have left with him arguing. So…

“C’est La Vie”

Better to just love him for who he is…an amazing Pappy.

Thx again guys X

That’s definitely the right approach – you want to spend the final months with him chatting about life and enjoying yourself, not continually arguing about his activities.

At the end of the day what is going to happen could happen at any time regardless of whether he is drinking or not if his health is that poorly.   Let the guy do what he enjoys doing during his final time.

When I finally go I hope its because I have ignored the doctors advice to stop having nightly orgies with a bevy of 21 year old buxom blondes, .   Hopefully my son will not try to talk me out of it

[blacko1974 WANTED $248 Spectator]

My heart goes out to you lad, it must be very difficult for you at this moment in time.

[Geezawin WANTED $270 Outlaw]

feel ur pain bud sound like u hav a smashing relationship with ur da .and his reasoning must seem baffling to u and ur family . who knows how people make these decisions ? but im sure in his mind it is the right one .so i would respect that and get back to doing what u did  b4 and enjoy  whatever time is left .i just burried my auld maw last thurs and due to family arguments about her funeral arrangements my last 2 conversations with my brother wernt the best and on monday he sadly passed and im gutted. life  is short enough mate . all the best

[Anonymous WANTED $483 Inactive]

Geezawin wrote:

feel ur pain bud sound like u hav a smashing relationship with ur da .and his reasoning must seem baffling to u and ur family . who knows how people make these decisions ? but im sure in his mind it is the right one .so i would respect that and get back to doing what u did  b4 and enjoy  whatever time is left .i just burried my auld maw last thurs and due to family arguments about her funeral arrangements my last 2 conversations with my brother wernt the best and on monday he sadly passed and im gutted. life  is short enough mate . all the best

Sorry to hear that buddy. Life deals us some right shit sometimes dunnit.

Hope you have plenty of nice memories of them mate X

Yeah I think its time to just accept what my dad wants and crack on.

[Anonymous WANTED $483 Inactive]

Dune2000 wrote:

Just Basics wrote:

Thanks so much for the replys. And sorry to hear about your mom Mr B. Awesome that you kidnapped her though lol. What a wonderful memory.

Yeah think I’m just gonna let my dad be who he wants to be, and hope he manages to drink in a way that isn’t gonna over power his body.

No way do I wanna spend the time I have left with him arguing. So…

“C’est La Vie”

Better to just love him for who he is…an amazing Pappy.

Thx again guys X

That’s definitely the right approach – you want to spend the final months with him chatting about life and enjoying yourself, not continually arguing about his activities.

At the end of the day what is going to happen could happen at any time regardless of whether he is drinking or not if his health is that poorly.   Let the guy do what he enjoys doing during his final time.

When I finally go I hope its because I have ignored the doctors advice to stop having nightly orgies with a bevy of 21 year old buxom blondes, .   Hopefully my son will not try to talk me out of it

Ha I will  the same in my final days!

[Mickeyvondickey WANTED $181 Outlaw]

So sorry to hear this mate. I can only imagine what you’re going through.

I know it’s not the same but I  found my grandad passed away on New Years Day 2012 whilst taking him a daily newspaper.

He was 83 and tone deaf. As he was deaf he got most of his enjoyment out of his sight and you’ve guessed it, it was slots that he really got a kick out of.

He spent his final 50 grand on slots and I’m glad he did rather than leaving it in a will. At least he got to enjoy what he had earned through life in his final months.

Not quite the same but you see where I’m coming from mate. Take care bud.

[Du Dune2000 WANTED $205 Blocked]

Mickeyvondickey wrote:

So sorry to hear this mate. I can only imagine what you’re going through.

I know it’s not the same but I  found my grandad passed away on New Years Day 2012 whilst taking him a daily newspaper.

He was 83 and tone deaf. As he was deaf he got most of his enjoyment out of his sight and you’ve guessed it, it was slots that he really got a kick out of.

He spent his final 50 grand on slots and I’m glad he did rather than leaving it in a will. At least he got to enjoy what he had earned through life in his final months.

Not quite the same but you see where I’m coming from mate. Take care bud.

Hopefully he didn’t spend it on Extra Chilli – that would have lasted him about an hour 🙂   Alternatively he could have played Holy Diver and got 10 bonuses all playing 5x.

[Mickeyvondickey WANTED $181 Outlaw]

Dune2000 wrote:

Mickeyvondickey wrote:

So sorry to hear this mate. I can only imagine what you’re going through.

I know it’s not the same but I  found my grandad passed away on New Years Day 2012 whilst taking him a daily newspaper.

He was 83 and tone deaf. As he was deaf he got most of his enjoyment out of his sight and you’ve guessed it, it was slots that he really got a kick out of.

He spent his final 50 grand on slots and I’m glad he did rather than leaving it in a will. At least he got to enjoy what he had earned through life in his final months.

Not quite the same but you see where I’m coming from mate. Take care bud.

Hopefully he didn’t spend it on Extra Chilli – that would have lasted him about an hour    Alternatively he could have played Holy Diver and got 10 bonuses all playing 5x.

Nah mate, all on the FOBT’s I’m afraid. Ahh well, he earned it, he saved it, I’m just glad he enjoyed it.

[St Stevie25 WANTED $254 Outlaw]

Tough times JB… My heart goes out to you 2 J. B. and hope you’re father stops drinking again soon…..

[THAGABSTAR WANTED $105 Outlaw]

Jb it’s not worth the arguments mate just try and accept that’s what he wants for years I argued with my mum over it but she wouldn’t stop she would say she has but they hide it from you and you catch them drinking again it’s not worth the arguments mate trust me I lost mine about 2weeks ago if I could go back I wouldn’t want to be arguing all the time just let him he himself and enjoy what he lives doing just have happy times with eachother mate there the memory’s you want with each other

[andywilliams1187 WANTED $398 Blocked]

Hi JB, Welcome back to the forum mate.

Sorry to hear this – your head must be mashed my friend.

All I can say is that you cant control people mate. Although it is your dad, only he can decide what decisions he wants to make and all you can do is support him in whatever way you can. If you try to force him to stop drinking, then it will just cause arguments between you and you dont want to spend what could be his last couple of months arguing; might as well try and spend some quality time with him rather than trying to change his ways.

Don’t feel guilty over the situation – there really is nothing you can do. Just remember the good times you have had with him and try and get a few more decent memories over the near future.

Always here if you need to chat mate.

Andy

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