@Seedy never throughout history has anyone announced they’re gonna do the unthinkable. That’s the first clue that they’re not gonna do it. This is basic human psychology on high school level.
Saying they’re contemplating something like that is clear cut signs of narcissistic abuse to try to make others feel bad about what they did themselves. It’s psycopathic traits, like guys saying they’re gonna off themselves if their girlfriend leaves them
Someone who’s actually gonna go through with something like that spends their time getting their shit sorted before they do it. They paint the white picket fence, they pay the bills, they tidy the house, they do everything so they don’t leave a mess for the ones they leave behind.
People who leave us behind don’t leave a chaos. They leave in silence, more often than not without any explanation.