Could only see the initial post from Frank and was going to offer some advice but then saw Seedys comment and he has pretty much nailed it.
Frank good news is if your still with your partner then its not all bad mate and if you really want to turn it around before its too late then I suggest doing the following:
Tell your partner everything.
Have your wages paid into her account and she gives you a weekly/monthly amunt of nothing you decide.
It really works because if you do your pocket money in then trust you dont feel anywhere near as bad as if you done the shopping money. When you win its even a greater feeling because the money means so much more to you as you achieved it off so little.
You may even find that your brain tells you you cant win off such a little amount and stop playing them or change to different kind of gambling where the wins are higher off smaller stakes i.e footy accs etc.
I know my advice is the same as seedys but that’s the best way imo andjust wanted to show that there is that people here to help and hopefully this the first step of you taking back control.
Good luck and like I said it could be worse where you lose everyone around you tell the partner let her take control the finances and in 6 months you be on here saying you have booked a holiday for the family